The wine ceremony symbolises the blending of your two lives into one. There are many ways to perform a wine ceremony. The great thing about that is you can create your own wine ceremony tradition. The glass of wine is symbolic of the cup of life. As you share this wine, you promise to share all that the future may bring.
The Rose (wine, not flower), is the symbol of love, and the blending of the red and white wine creates a light pink Rose Wine, celebrating the blending of the two individual lives and love of the new couple.
Before the wedding begins, red wine and white wine, each in a small carafe, are placed next to a larger empty carafe with one or two wineglasses on a small table near the couple. Music during the wine ceremony can add a nice touch, but is always optional.
At the appropriate time in the ceremony, the Celebrant announces “To symbolize and celebrate the blending of your two lives into one. I invite you to perform the Wine Ceremony”.
The couple proceed to the table with the wine on it, and each picks up an “individual” carafe and pours some of it into the “marriage” carafe. The Groom then picks up the “marriage” carafe and pours some of it into a glass for his Bride. The Bride picks up the “marriage” carafe and pours some into the glass for her Groom.
The Groom may now toast his Bride with “Now our lives are one” or, “To our lives together”. His Bride lifts her glass and gives the same toast, or she may change the words. You each can create your own toasts, to make it personal and more meaningful to you both.
They then place the wine glasses back onto the table, and turn to the Celebrant who says “This ceremony represents your two individual lives, combined, like the two individual wines into one. All the sweetness the cup of life may hold for you should be sweeter because you drink it together; and whatever drops of bitterness it may contain should be less, because they are shared. Everybody here joins in blessing you with all of the joy, happiness, companionship, prosperity and love all the days of your life”.
Or they can say “As with a glass of wine, one of you may find it sweet, the other perhaps dry or somehow different. Let the drink you share today serve as a reminder that although you may perceive things very differently, if you are willing to communicate and discuss these differences and see the issues through, you will be able to blend the differences, as you have blended the wines to create a new wine. If you are committed to giving each other the space to be individuals, within the framework of family, and you always are committed to love and honour one another; your lives together will grow deeper, richer and greatly satisfying, like a rare and fine wine”.
From The Prophet
Love one another,
But make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea
Between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup
But drink not from the same cup.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
But let each other of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone,
Though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts,
But not into each other’s keeping,
For only the hands of life
Can contain your hearts.
And stand together
Yet not too near together;
For the pillars of the Temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress
Grow not in each other’s shadow.
The Celebrant can announce that immediately after the service, the guests can share this wine of their commitment of one life if they so desire, or Rose wine can be served at the Reception to mark this ceremony.
There is a tradition of couples winding their arm around the others and drinking from their wine glasses. However, this is a bit difficult, and red wine can be spilt on the brides beautiful gown, so I would suggest some practice go into this, before you do it on the day.